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welcome to the all the hard things blog

If you’ve ever thought, “I’ll just check one more time,” or “If someone can just tell me I’m okay, then I’ll relax,” welcome to the club no one asked to join. Here’s the thing about why your brain feels safe only when you’re checking or reassuring. It doesn’t mean you’re anxious, fragile, or “behind” in […]

February 3, 2026

Why Your Brain Feels Safe Only When You’re Checking or Reassuring

Compulsions, OCD and Anxiety Basics, Recovery Tips

If you’ve ever had a thought pop into your head and immediately thought, “What the hell was that?” – welcome. You’re in the right place. Intrusive thoughts are one of the most misunderstood parts of OCD and anxiety. They’re scary, unwanted, random, and wildly convincing. And for a lot of people, the moment an intrusive […]

Intrusive Thoughts 101: Why They Happen (and Why Fighting Them Makes Everything Worse)

January 20, 2026

Compulsions, OCD and Anxiety Basics, Recovery Tips