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welcome to the all the hard things blog

When you’re about to become a parent, you expect everything to be so wonderful and full of joy and bliss. Everyone tells you about the snuggles, the love you’ll experience, and all of the amazing things about being a new mom or dad. What they don’t tell you is all of the anxiety, fear, and panic you can feel – not to mention the intrusive, scary, unwelcome thoughts that come in out of nowhere and never seem to go away no matter what you do.

February 16, 2023

OCD in Motherhood: Wouldn’t Wish It On My Worst Enemy

Parenting, Personal

I can’t tell you how many times people have told me that because I’m a therapist, I should “know better” i.e., how to handle my negative emotions. Uh, yes. But I am human, and emotions are really complicated things! Hello? It’s not like you become a therapist and instantly have mastery over your emotional self. But I digress.

The fact of the matter is that I’ve always had a tendency to be a little anxious. When I was a kid, I remember getting a stomach ache every morning before school. Looking back, I now know that was most likely anxiety. Even now, I still have days where I walk into work – to treat people who have anxiety, mind you – and my heart is beating fast, I feel short of breath, and I feel frenzied and all over the place. It used to be so bad that I’d break out in hives when I had to speak up at a meeting! It. Was. Awful.

Experiencing Anxiety as an Anxiety Therapist

November 23, 2022

For Therapists, Personal