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You ever notice how your brain behaves like that friend who refuses to leave the party? (unfortunately I am sometimes this friend) One more check. One more explanation. One more “but what if.” One more mental replay. Even when nothing is actually wrong. If you’ve ever caught yourself thinking, “I just want to feel certain,” […]

March 24, 2026

Why You’re Always Searching for Certainty (and How to Stop the Spiral)

Compulsions, OCD and Anxiety Basics, Recovery Tips

Every year around St. Patrick’s Day, my DMs get very predictable. “Why is my anxiety so bad after drinking?” “Why do I feel guilty the day after going out?” “Why am I replaying everything I said last night?” “Did I ruin something? Did I embarrass myself? Did I cross a line?” If you have OCD […]

Anxiety After Drinking: Why St. Patrick’s Day Can Spike OCD and Intrusive Thoughts

March 17, 2026

Compulsions, OCD and Anxiety Basics, Recovery Tips