Motherhood is an incredible journey filled with countless joys, challenges, and responsibilities. But let’s be real—being a mom can also bring a lot of anxiety. And guess what? That’s completely normal. Normalizing anxiety is crucial because it allows us to face our feelings head-on, without shame or guilt. It’s okay to feel anxious sometimes, and acknowledging this is the first step toward managing it. A few weeks ago, I shared this Instagram post with six practical ways to deal with anxiety as a mom, and today, we are going to dive in even further! 

1. Do Things That Scare You Little by Little

First, let’s all breathe a collective sigh of relief. Dealing with anxiety and facing your fears doesn’t mean diving into the deep end right away. Instead, when I’m working with clients, I encourage them to start taking small, manageable steps. Start with something that causes you mild anxiety and gradually work your way up. Maybe it’s attending a new mom group or letting your child play a bit further away at the park. By exposing yourself to these situations incrementally, you build confidence and reduce the power anxiety holds over you.

2. Stay Off Google

Ooof this one is a toughie—we all need to stop typing our worries into the search bar and spiraling into worst-case scenarios. While it’s natural to seek information, excessive Googling can fuel anxiety rather than alleviate it. I’m sure you know what I’m talking about. And for moms with OCD especially, checking Google can quickly turn into a compulsion, where you are constantly seeking assurance and instead of feeling better over time you end up feeling worse.

If you are struggling to deal with anxiety as a mom, try to focus on trusting reliable sources or consult your pediatrician or a trusted friend instead. It can be hard enough not to worry as a mom, so limiting your time online can help you stay grounded and prevent unnecessary worry.

3. Focus on Authentic Actions vs. Perfection

Next on the list when it comes to trying to deal with anxiety as a mom, is to focus on authentic actions instead of aiming for perfection. Remember that perfection is an impossible standard, and striving for it can only lead to overwhelming anxiety. 

Instead, focus on authenticity. It might sound a little cheesy but take a step back and think: What truly matters to you and your family? Is it a clean house? Or family game nights? Pinterest-worthy lunches? Or fed and happy kids? Embrace the messiness of motherhood and recognize that your best is good enough. Authenticity fosters connection and contentment, whereas perfectionism breeds stress and dissatisfaction. If you’re feeling dissatisfied in your life right now, this might be the giant red flag waving telling you why.

4. Try to Stay in the Present Moment

I know what you’re thinking: easier said than done, right Jenna? But the truth is that around here? We do the hard things. Anxiety often stems from worrying about the future or dwelling on the past. When you feel yourself start to get anxious, it can be helpful to try and practice mindfulness to anchor yourself in the present. Whether it’s through deep breathing, meditation, or simply paying attention to your senses, staying present can reduce anxiety. 

5. Learn to Problem Solve vs. Worry or Ruminate

One of the trickiest parts about struggling with anxiety or OCD is that worrying and ruminating can feel like problem-solving, but they’re actually the opposite. When you find yourself stuck in a loop of anxious thoughts, try to switch gears. Identify the problem, brainstorm solutions, and take action. Even small steps toward solving a problem can alleviate anxiety and give you a sense of control.

6. Let Yourself (and Others) Off the Hook

Last but not least, one powerful way to deal with anxiety as a mom is to practice self-compassion and let yourself off the hook. As moms, we often set impossibly high standards for ourselves, believing we need to be perfect in every aspect of parenting, home management, and our personal lives. But like I said above, striving for perfection only fuels anxiety and stress. Give yourself permission to be human and make mistakes. Embrace the idea that good enough is perfectly okay. When you let go of the unrealistic expectations you place on yourself, you can begin to experience a sense of relief and greater emotional well-being.

In addition to letting yourself off the hook, it’s important to extend this grace to others as well. We often expect our partners, friends, and family members to meet certain standards or behave in specific ways, and when they don’t, it can add to our stress and anxiety. By allowing others to be imperfect too, we foster a more supportive and understanding environment. Remember, everyone is doing their best, and holding onto grudges or unmet expectations only weighs you down. Letting yourself and others off the hook can create a more peaceful, compassionate atmosphere in your home, reducing overall anxiety and enhancing your relationships.

Worried About Motherhood Anxiety?

If you’re grappling with the anxiety of whether to have more kids or even to have kids at all, especially if you’ve struggled with OCD or anxiety in the past, you’re not alone. Many women and men face this daunting decision, feeling stuck and overwhelmed. That’s why I created the masterclass “When It’s Scary Having Kids.” This class will guide you through the decision-making process, helping you to navigate your fears and uncertainties. You’ll gain practical tools and insights to make the best choice for you and your family, ensuring you feel confident and supported every step of the way. 

How to Deal With Anxiety as a Mom

Remember, you’re not alone in this. Anxiety is a common experience, and it doesn’t define your worth as a mother. By taking small steps, staying present, and practicing self-compassion, you can manage your anxiety and enjoy the beautiful journey of motherhood. You are stronger than you know, and you have the power to overcome any obstacle that comes your way. Keep going, mama—you’ve got this!